Everyone talks about mindfulness but how mindful are you in the presence of others? Being physically present is not the same if you’re on your phone. For instance, I invited a couple of friends to a hockey game after scoring free tickets. It was something I was really looking forward to- a lively night with friends, double-fisting beers, sweaty hockey brawls, and cheesy concession stand nachos. But instead of sporty debauchery, my friends couldn’t stay off of their phones. Was this game boring? But I was having fun! My boyfriend was having fun. How were they not having fun?
The home team scored three goals in a row and the crowd roared with ferocity; people in the building were STOKED! Everyone except my friends who were sinking deeper and deeper into their social media accounts and texts. I was bummed; they might as well have not even been there with us.
It’s easy for someone to be physically present. But in today’s world, sitting “together” sometimes isn’t enough. As we scroll through endless feeds that provide 150 character snippets of filtered stories, life is actually passing us by. So put down the phone and talk to each other. Converse! Laugh! Play! Engage each other. The things you end up missing out on are too important: Experiences. Love. Laughter. Emotions. Diversity. Richness.
So be present. It is something that is so much more than just being there. And you will never get back the time you have with your friends and family. That’s one thing that will sting way more than getting only 10 likes on Instagram.